Ask for what you need, not what you want them to give up

Today’s communication tip: when expressing a need, frame it in terms of a positive instead of a negative. Ask for what you need, not what you think they should give up to meet that need. There are likely many ways you can come up with collaboratively to meet that need, and this opens the door to conversation and negotiation as opposed to a demand that may be responded to with defensiveness. You might feel tempted to ask your partner to not go out with their friends so much, or change their schedule around. But think deeper about what you would get out of this change. More quality time? More physical contact? Frame the request in terms of these underlying needs instead, and you will likely have a more successful outcome 💙 #communication #communicationtips #goodcommunication #communicationforcouples #couplestherapy #increasingcommunication #relationshiptherapy #communicationskills #mentalhealththerapy #couplestherapist #couplescounseling #relationshipcounselling

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